Dear Abby: Should I tell her about these letters from her husband?

DEAR ABBY Twenty years ago my daughter Tina was in an abusive marriage that ended with the overdose death of her husband My wife her mother died lately As I was going through several old papers and files I came across a plain white envelope Inside were a couple of handwritten letters from Tina s husband seemingly written just prior to his death I am unsure what I should do with them My worry is that if I give them to Tina it might cause her to relive that terrible time On the other hand I feel the decision of what to do with the letters should be hers She not only survived but she has thrived and made a wonderful life for herself PROUD DAD IN FLORIDA DEAR DAD You state that you unveiled the letters in various old papers belonging to your wife How strange that they weren t sent to your daughter If they were intended to be passed on to your daughter why didn t she receive them If she did receive them and gave them to her mother then she already knows what s in them I think you should tell Tina what you came across ask if she knows about them and if she doesn t know offer them to her DEAR ABBY I am freshman in high school and I live with my stepmother and father They are great parents to me and my little brother but very homophobic I love going to church with them but I have a partner of the same gender My parents in recent times discovered out and have decided as punishment to isolate me from everyone including putting me in homeschool What they don t understand is that I am confused about myself and I can t make sense of my emotions Can I be both Christian and lesbian Every time I try to ask one of them for help understanding they shut down and call me disgusting What can I do to get them to understand that I need to talk through this WHO AM I IN KENTUCKY DEAR WHO Of program a person can be both LGBTQ and Christian although you may not be welcomed at the denomination to which your parents belong The Episcopalians the Presbyterians the United Methodist Church the United Church of Christ and the Metropolitan Neighborhood Church an LGBTQ denomination are among the inclusive Related Articles Asking Eric My husband sought a young woman to voyage with him to our son s house Harriette Cole I was confused by what I saw on my phone and then my girlfriend confessed Miss Manners Is it petty of me to resent this woman s presumptuous thank-yous Dear Abby I think it s rude to talk about kids in front of non-parents Asking Eric My best friend s girlfriend seems hung up on her ex Should I say something Your parents may be frightened because they think you have chosen to be the way you are You may find online guidance will make you feel better as you seek to understand more about yourself One of them is The Trevor Project thetrevorproject org which is the leading emergency intervention nonprofit organization for LGBTQ young people It provides information and encouragement all year round Another trusted supply I have recommended for multiple years not just for you but also for your parents if they would like to learn more about this subject is called PFLAG It was started in by a mother and her gay son and has grown to become the leading asset for educational materials on this subject Its web address is pflag org Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren also known as Jeanne Phillips and was founded by her mother Pauline Phillips Contact Dear Abby at www DearAbby com or P O Box Los Angeles CA