Harriette Cole: It was funny when we googled my new boyfriend, and then it wasn’t

DEAR HARRIETTE I met a guy about a month ago in a bizarre way We were riding the same subway car during an off-peak hour and kept locking eyes Related Articles Harriette Cole My husband gripes all the time but won t speak up for himself Harriette Cole My kids are starting to notice their cousins get treated better Harriette Cole How can I tell my uncle he s damaging his kid Harriette Cole She wants a job with my company but I ve heard about her mistakes Harriette Cole I m envious that she has sympathy for a co-worker and none for me He came over and sat with me and we swapped a limited stories It was crazy but so sweet He narrated me that he used to play sports overseas and is now back in New York City opening a restaurant He invited me out to a food tasting as our first date and we ve been spending time together ever since I ended up telling my friend about this new romance and she thought it d be fascinating to Google him At first it was funny but then she discovered a family photo on his socials captioned Superdad father of I was shocked We spoke about our families on our first date and he communicated me that he has a daughter I feel deceived and don t know how to confront him since I determined out by snooping Should I ghost him or is that immature Dating Superdad DEAR DATING SUPERDAD First of all I don t consider it snooping to look up someone online It is common practice and not the same thing as riffling through his phone or his belongings You unveiled Superdad What else did you see on his socials Is he also a husband Look again to learn more about this man from his posts and then absolutely speak to him about your discoveries You can tell him the truth You were telling a friend about him and the two of you looked him up Express how surprised you were when you learned that he has five children even though he notified you about only one Ask him to tell you who he is and why he thought it was necessary to hide the fact that he has five children from you People have lives Whatever is true about them is just that You don t need to ghost this man Instead find out who he is and if his values match yours If they don t say goodbye DEAR HARRIETTE I find myself in a tough situation I have fallen for a guy who is in dire financial straits This is so weird as one of my biggest worries is not having enough money I am an entrepreneur and in latest years my business has not been strong What I thought I requested the majority was a stable relationship with someone who has stable finances so it s nuts that I have fallen for this guy I met him at one of my lowest points and he was so kind to me He sees me Part of me wants to say I will give this a chance Maybe together we can both get financially stronger but maybe this is me being naive How can I tell Fallen Related Articles Dear Abby She s excluded from the wedding reception Do I have to warn her Asking Eric What should I say if I see this woman after the dog park nastiness Harriette Cole My husband gripes all the time but won t speak up for himself Miss Manners All people in the DMV line were wearing pajamas I exposed it disgusting Dear Abby I exposed out what my friends are hiding from me Should I pretend I don t know DEAR FALLEN Have an honest conversation with this man Tell him your concerns about your life and his Admit that you really like him and want to see where things are headed but you need to see both of you making headway toward financial stability Ask him questions about his financial history work life etc Find out his strengths and weaknesses as you share yours Analyze whether being with him is worth the menace for your sanity and your wallet Harriette Cole is a lifestylist and founder of DREAMLEAPERS an initiative to help people access and activate their dreams You can send questions to askharriette harriettecole com or c o Andrews McMeel Syndication Walnut St Kansas City MO