Harriette Cole: My friend is getting odd texts and she says I need to intervene

DEAR HARRIETTE I went to an event with a male friend Tom and met up with a female friend Meg and we all hung out together Related Articles Harriette Cole He says he wasn t himself on our disastrous first date Must I give him another chance Harriette Cole My co-workers don t know this secret about our horrible boss Harriette Cole We re supposed to return to the office and that s a obstacle for me Harriette Cole Is it time to file a complaint about the neighbors or will that make it worse Harriette Cole She thinks her kids are so much better than mine The next day I learned that Tom had been calling Meg and basically trying to seduce her His approach was a bit kinky though and she was turned off by it He appealed her to send him pictures of different body parts not genitalia and she located it all creepy Now he won t stop soliciting her for photos Meg has forwarded me his messages so I can see them they are different but not overly suggestive or inappropriate She has requested me to speak to him and ask him to back off I don t want to get involved Nothing seems dangerous about his communication Meg just demands to tell him she s not interested Do you think I need to do more Peripheral DEAR PERIPHERAL Encourage Meg to handle her business This is not high school Everyone is an adult She requirements to act like one and tell Tom that she appreciates his interest in her but she does not reciprocate his feelings She demands to ask him to stop calling and texting her If he doesn t get the hint she can block his number DEAR HARRIETTE My daughter just graduated from college in May and my husband and I couldn t be prouder of her She has a job lined up in New York City and will be moving there in mid-August The lease at her college apartment ends in July and we were really hoping she would come home before starting this next chapter We thought it would be a nice way for her to relax regroup and spend specific quality time with family before she s off building her new life When we suggested it she communicated us she doesn t want to come home She announced she wants to stay with specific university friends until her lease is up Honestly this response really hurt We ve supported her every step of the way and we were looking forward to having her back under our roof even if just for a short time I can t help but feel like she s trying to distance herself from us now that she s an adult Is it wrong to want this time with her How do I deal with the sadness and disappointment I m feeling without making her feel guilty Missing Our Daughter Related Articles Miss Manners The secret about my new house got out and now things are awkward at work Dear Abby My friend stated there was no wedding date Then I ascertained her website Asking Eric I was fuming the entire flight Could I have questioned for a partial refund Harriette Cole He says he wasn t himself on our disastrous first date Must I give him another chance Miss Manners The bride s mother sent me a bill How should I respond DEAR MISSING OUR DAUGHTER Accepting that your daughter is independent and walking into the next stage of her life has got to be hard It is understandable that you long to spend a bit of time with her before she moves further away It also makes sense that she wants to be with friends she has made in college whom she may never see again Tell your daughter that you were hoping she would come home for a short time before heading to New York City for her new job Ask her if she would consider carving out a brief period of time even just a long weekend to come home to be with you while also being able to hang a bit with her friends Don t guilt her Just ask her Harriette Cole is a lifestylist and founder of DREAMLEAPERS an initiative to help people access and activate their dreams You can send questions to askharriette harriettecole com or c o Andrews McMeel Syndication Walnut St Kansas City MO